Love is the most complicated thing there is. It brings you happiness, yes, but it can also cause you pain, leave you a wound so deep you’ll never want to love again.
It’s frangible. What breaks a romantic relationship can be anything. Promises not kept, words not meant, lies told, trust wasted. Infidelity is one of the main reasons relationships fail, and for many, it’s a dealbreaker. But not every case of cheating leads to break up or divorce. Some choose to give their relationship another shot.
But if you’ve cheated on your husband or wife, you can’t just expect things to be the same, that your significant other loves you so much, they’ll pretend nothing ever happened. It may be possible in movies, but real life is far from being ideal and perfect.
And true enough, not everything that’s broken can be fixed. Thankfully, though, the trust issue isn’t one of them. It takes time, but trust can be rebuilt, and there are things you can do to make that happen.
Here’s how you can rebuild trust in a relationship and work your way on forming a stronger bond.
Ways to Rebuild Trust in a Relationship After an Affair
It won’t be easy, especially if you’re married, but it’s not impossible either. It’s a process—and a long one at that. Keep these ways to rebuild trust in a relationship in mind as you try to woo your spouse all over again.
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1. Know what you did and face its consequences
You hurt your other half. They may forgive you, but they will never forget what you did and neither should you. Reflect on your actions and acknowledge the pain you caused. Defending yourself will only make things worse.
You can also talk to your wife or husband. You know for yourself that whatever you do, it will never be enough to make up for how hurt they have been by your actions, but you can always do your best.
2. Give them time to heal
If your partner wants some space, give it to them. Let them cry over what you did. Allow them to ask you questions, and when you are asked to answer, be honest when you do.
To recover from betrayal is not easy. You don’t have the right to tell them it’s time to move on. Keep apologizing and reach out to them with compassion. As they try to get through such painful experience, be there and be understanding.
3. Make promises you can keep
No more lies and empty words. That’s one of the most effective ways to rebuild trust in a relationship that has been tested by infidelity. You’ve done something and you’ve seen the consequences it comes with. You wouldn’t really want to put your partner, yourself, or your relationship through that again. When you say something, mean it. When you vow to do something, do it.
4. Find ways to show your spouse love and affection
Woo your spouse all over again. You lost their trust, it’s only right that you do everything to get that back. And what better way to do it than to prove to them that your heart is still theirs. Courting your significant other the second time around can be harder than the first time you met, but it’s worth it. It should be worth it.
5. Set goals for your marriage
Getting back on track in your marriage is a challenge. But if you could find the time to sit down and talk about your future together, it would help. Set goals for your marriage and achieve them one by one together.
Infidelity does not always have to end in separation. Sometimes, it paves the way for a healthier relationship and a stronger bond with your other half. The road to that, however, can be rough and bumpy. But if you know for yourself you love your spouse and won’t want to end things here, you have to know what to do and how to do it.
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