There’s no question about it: cheating is wrong and is one of the most hurtful things a person can do to their romantic partner. While it’s okay to feel attraction toward other people while you’re in a relationship, it’s when you act on those feelings of attraction that it becomes a problem. For instance, it’s all right if you find another person pretty or handsome, but when you start fantasizing about or flirting with them, that’s when it becomes wrong. Just because you feel a physical attraction toward other people doesn’t necessarily mean you have to act on them.
Here are some of the ways you can ensure that you don’t cheat on your beloved.
1. Think about the possible consequences.
You hear a lot of things about the importance of staying in the moment. While that’s good for other aspects of your life, it’s not bad to think about the future in terms of what will happen to your relationship, especially if you do something regrettable like acting on your interest in the other person. Visualize what would happen in case you got caught by your partner cheating. Most of the time, the thought alone of a breakup is enough to deter anyone.
2. Put some effort and energy into your relationship.
You might think your relationship is at a dead-end, which might tempt you to cheat with the first person you become attracted to. You might think you no longer feel excited about the relationship or your partner, but more often that not, what you might be feeling is just boredom. Don’t be too impulsive about your feelings and try to weight the situation first. You and your partner might just be in a relationship rut. What you both need to do in that situation is to rekindle your feelings for each other by spending quality time together.
3. Avoid all possible temptations.
Most affairs start because the people involved in them were too weak to avoid temptations or did not guard their feelings carefully. Even if you’re already committed to another person, this doesn’t mean you’re off the hook already. Sometimes it’s when you’re too relaxed that the unthinkable can happen. For instance, you might think what you have is just a little crush, but that “crush” could grow into something more, if you and the person in question are in close proximity with each other all the time.
4. Ask yourself the important questions.
A good way to fight against temptation is ask yourself some serious questions like “What will I gain when I cheat?” Just the simple act of confronting yourself can already stop in you in your tracks when it comes to cheating. Moreover, it helps you put things into perspective.
5. Take some me-time.
As a last resort, you can ask your partner to give you some space in the relationship just so you can clear your head. Sometimes some alone time is all you need to figure out what it is you’re really looking for in the relationship and how you can be more connected to your partner. This is a good time to think about the issues you might have with your partner and how you both can address them.
There are many reasons why people cheat. But whatever it is, that doesn’t take away from the fact that fooling another person, especially someone you love, is wrong and hurtful. In the long run, cheating will have negative effects on both of you.