Being in love carries with it the possibility that there’ll be an unimaginable amount of pain you’ll have to put through. Yes, it brings happiness, but with it comes the fact that there’s some hurting too, especially when your other half cheats.
You know, the thing about cheating is that it’s very rampant. Study says that as high as 60 to 70% of people in a relationship cheat behind their lover’s back. And it’s not just the guys. Women cheat as much as men do. And when it happens, a lot changes happen in the relationship. Trust gets broken. Communication is lessened. Sexual activity becomes a scarcity. Cheating affects relationships in more ways than one. Here are the ways infidelity changes things between you and your partner:
5 Ways Relationship Changes After Infidelity
1. You just can’t trust anyone or anything anymore.
Nothing gets broken as easily as trust. It is the hardest to build yet the easiest to break. So when someone cheats, trust becomes a real challenge. You start to doubt everything your partner says, from what they say they’re doing to whom they claim they’re hanging out with. Because they’ve lied to you once, it feels like everything they say from then on becomes a lie too.
2. Your level of confidence changes.
Your confidence either plummets or soars, depending on your role. If someone cheats because they feel unwanted or undesired in their current relationship, their confidence will boost after they’ve found someone who makes them feel desirable once again. Their new lover will make them realize that they still can be loved, after all.
Needless to say, the one who gets cheated on will lose their self-confidence. They will feel like they’re unattractive, that they can’t be loved, that they’re not enough, and that there simply is something wrong with them. According to Elite Daily, even if the cheater apologizes and makes up for their mistakes, the person who got cheated on will feel like the lowest of the low.
3. You tend to have a lot of questions about your partner’s whereabouts.
There will be a lot of questions, that’s for sure. According to Diana Dorell, dating coach and author of The Dating Mirror: Trust Again, Love Again, “Your partner may ask you repeatedly to share details of the cheating—the more you can disclose to put their mind at rest, the better. Be prepared to answer a lot of questions about your whereabouts and why you are doing certain things.”
4. Your sex life gets affected.
For some couples, infidelity has destroyed their sex life. Ian Kerner, a psychotherapist who specializes in sex and couples therapy and author of She Comes First, tells Prevention.com, “If your partner has cheated on you, even if you are working hard to forgive and rebuild the relationship, sex is often the last piece of the puzzle. You’re sorting through all kinds of emotions—depression, anger, betrayal—and that just kills your sexual desire.”
5. Your relationship might end.
Trust can be rebuilt and the relationship can be salvaged, but sometimes, that does not happen. Some couples choose to end everything, as the level of deceit was high enough to ignore. They choose to go their separate ways because they know that staying together after all that has happened will only bring more doubts and questions, which can be hard to handle.