Married life is synonymous to bliss, they say. A lot of us believe that tying the knot marks the beginning of a chapter in our life that is filled with nothing but happiness. While that is true, there is more to marriage and perhaps parenthood than what people choose to paint. It is full of happy memories, yes, but it carries with it too a fair share of moments that make you want to give up.
Responsibilities and the pressure life puts on you can easily cause stress. You have to manage finances and deal with a lot of other things settling down demands you to handle.
But you’re not the only one suffering here. Your partner is too. Maybe you are strong enough to pull through. But what if your partner isn’t? During those times they feel like giving up, your support is the first thing they’ll need. The importance of emotional support may not be frequently discussed, but it has been established. There’s nothing greater than being made feel that there’s someone you can rely on when life takes a bad turn.
But how does one give emotional support?
Becoming a Supportive Partner: Ways of Giving Emotional Support to Your Spouse
Not everyone is ready to face life’s challenges. When you marry your partner, it becomes a part of your job description to give them support when they need it. One good enough a reason for a woman to cheat (and sometimes men) is when they’re not getting enough emotional support from their partner. So if you don’t want your romance to end like that, do something.
Here are some of the best ways of giving emotional support to your spouse.
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1. Show affection
Giving affection is one of the best ways to show them you’re there and you care. It makes them feel secure and protected. When you feel like your spouse is going through something—or even when they’re not—initiate physical contact.
You can offer back massages or give them a simple hug. Reach out and touch them often. Hold their hand and make them feel they’re not walking through the rough paths alone.
A pair of listening ears can do more wonders than a sharp eye ever could. If your partner wants to rant over something, let them. If they want to talk about how they feel ugly in the morning, allow them.
Listening gives you a free tour around your spouse’s mind. The things they love, the things they despise, the future they’ve always dreamed of—you will know all these things if you listen to them with intensity.
And when they talk, look them in the eye. You don’t have to respond, listening to them and letting them know that they are being heard is good enough. Talking takes a lot of load off your shoulder, but you’ll be freed of more weight when you know someone’s willing to hear your thoughts.
3. Be more understanding
Another one of the best ways of giving emotional support to your spouse is to be more understanding of their feelings. Be empathetic. And in the event that disagreements arise, know where they’re coming from.
As American psychologist Carl Rogers puts it, “When someone really hears you without passing judgment on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels damn good!”
Learning to understand your spouse’s emotions allows for an even healthier romantic relationship. This also helps build a transparent and honest atmosphere between you two.
4. Offer help
One of the main reasons our partners get exhausted is housework. So don’t hesitate to offer help even when they don’t ask for it. Not everyone is good at voicing out their thoughts, so maybe your spouse is just waiting for you to jump in and help out.
Pay attention to your spouse more and know their needs. And if you believe you know a way to take some load off their plate, do it.
5. Give them more reasons to smile
Make them happy in any way you can. Tell jokes and make them laugh. Remind them of things that you know will leave a smile on their face. Find something that will brighten their day.
Giving the person you love a reason to forget the things that bug them even for a quick second helps more than you think it does.
You know, our days won’t always be sunny, our memories not always something to keep, and our experiences not always sweet like honey. At some point, something will crack. When your spouse is having one of those rough times, be there. Things may not be easy, but they will be able to come out on the other side stronger and happier with you there by their side.
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