According to a recent study by Boston University, up to 25 percent of married men involved in the said study have admitted to cheating on their wives. That’s a huge percentage, and it leads to the obvious conclusion that adultery in a relationship is much more common than you’d think.
But why do a lot of men cheat? According to psychologists, cheating happens not just because of waning attraction to a partner. It can happen for many other reasons too, such as boredom or an emotional disconnect. And then there are the chronic cheaters who cheat simply because they can.
You don’t want to be blindsided by a cheating partner. Whether you have any suspicions or not about your husband, it’s important that you’re aware of the signs that someone could be cheating on you. We’ve compiled a list of them for you:
1. He shows a lack of interest in sexual intimacy.
Although sex isn’t the only kind of intimacy there is in a marriage, it is often the first thing to go away when the other partner is cheating. If your husband suddenly seems uninterested in having sex or gives all sorts of excuses just to get out of lovemaking, despite there being nothing wrong with him mentally or physically, then there’s a chance that he may be cheating on you.
2. He is constantly on his phone, and he brings it literally everywhere.
Nowadays, many people are constantly on their phones. However, it should raise a question in your head if your husband was not the type to do that before and now he seems like he can’t be still without his phone in his hand or in his pocket. If it has come to the extent when he even brings his phone to the shower, then that’s a clear sign that he’s hiding something from you, such as an affair.
3. He often brings up other women in his conversations with you.
A married man who is having an affair with someone on the side will have that particular woman constantly in his thoughts. No matter how careful he is, her name will often slip out from his lips, whether he does it intentionally or not. If you’ve been noticing that he can’t stop talking about another woman, whether that’s a friend or a coworker, it may be a sign that he’s cheating on you with her or he’s harboring feelings for her at least.
4. He suddenly accuses you of cheating on him.
Another thing that cheating husbands do is to switch the blame onto their partners. That’s right—they project their wrongdoing onto their wives in the aim of diverting their suspicions and make them defensive in turn.
5. He limits quality time and communication with you.
Has he suddenly developed a habit of giving you terse, one-word answers when you used to be able to have long talks together? Is he suddenly “spending long nights at the office” or “having frequent nights out with his buddies”? The sudden disinterest in communicating or spending quality time with you is another sign that he’s having an affair with someone else.
It’s one thing to have suspicions about a cheating partner. The best thing to do, however, is to confirm your suspicions by having your spouse investigated or discreetly installing a tracker on their car.