You can never rationalize cheating, and nothing could ever compensate the pain infidelity brings. When it strikes, the pang feels like a thousand blades pierced through your heart. The painful memory lingers for as long as you live. No one ever wants to go through that, but some people, apparently, are just unable to resist temptations.
Infidelity, with all its abominable glory, is far from uncommon. So it does not come as a surprise that there have been a lot of studies on infidelity, with each revealing truth about unfaithfulness and the unfaithful.
The thing about cheating is that nothing about it is ever guaranteed. For one, the person you least expect to cheat is the one who succumbs to extramarital affairs, while the ex whom you thought would never find a partner is now happily married. These are just few of the countless pieces of truth about cheaters science has unearthed after countless studies. Here’s more.
The Types of People Most Likely to Cheat, According to Science
If your gut tells you that your partner is cheating on you, that’s probably because they actually are. But if you’re hesitant to put your faith in your stomach, even after noticing signs they are keeping things from you, below is a list of people most likely to cheat based on research you should check out. Let science help you figure out if the shoe actually fits.
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1. Heavy social media users
A 2017 study called Social Networking Sites and Online Infidelity suggests that the more time one spends on social networking sites, the more likely they are to cheat. The study posits that social media adds to the likelihood of engaging in online infidelity. Other than that, social media apps have features like knowing the nearby people and sending secret messages, which all make cheating thrive without the partner noticing.
2. Wealthier men, poorer women
Headlines are flooded with news of rich men engaging in numerous affairs and it’s probably not so much of a new thing for many. The news of a filthy rich, Wall Street man cheating does not sound so surprising, as if infidelity were a luxury good available only to the wealthy.
But all these stories are no coincidence. When Love Meets Money, a study by Frontiers Media on the impact of money on the development of romantic relationships, has it that wealthier men, being naturally confident in their character and dominant in sexual competition, are more likely to become unsatisfied in their relationship.
Women, on the other hand, have a different story to tell. Research suggests that poorer women are one of the people most likely to cheat. Women who are financially capable of satisfying their needs independently may have less need for men’s money. However, if a woman has less money, she is more likely to engage in a sexual affair with men outside the relationship, starting an affair with a man who can give her not just her needs but also her wants.
3. Men and women who grew up around cheating
Truth be told, when a parent cheats, it’s not their spouse that gets affected the most, it’s their kids. Cheating is a traumatic experience, and no matter how hard a child tries to suppress the memory, it will resurface sooner or later.
It’s worth noting, however, that not everyone who has experienced parental infidelity will end up cheating too. A study by Dr. Dana Weiser, professor of human development and family studies at Texas Tech University, concludes that the impact of parental infidelity depends on the gravity and the result of the actual cheating. Those whose parents remain married after the infidelity are one of the people most likely to cheat. They grow up believing that cheating is acceptable so long as the marriage remains unbroken. If cheating becomes a usual scenario in a marriage, the children end up embracing the idea of infidelity. When they themselves cheat, they will reason out that their parents did it, so why can’t they. On the other hand, those whose family was broken by infidelity are more likely to avoid having extramarital affairs.
4. Excessive porn viewers
A different research reveals that people who watch porn excessively are also one of the people most likely to cheat. A study called Pornography, Relationship Alternatives, and Intimate Extradyadic Behavior suggests that viewing pornographic content has two impacting consequences.
One, it gives birth to the idea that their partners are part of porno, which increases sexual drive. Second, excessive pornography viewing creates a romanticized idea of infidelity. To them, it’s rather appealing than unruly to have multiple sexual partners.
5. People who fake orgasm
An interesting theory suggests that orgasm promotes unfaithfulness, as it is sign of sexual satisfaction. This theory has borne studies on the correlation between infidelity and orgasm. Do Women Pretend Orgasm to Retain a Mate? in particular, indicates that those who frequently fake orgasm are more likely to stray. The same study also finds that women fake orgasm more than men do.
But why do they? There are two reasons for this: first, women find it hard to reach orgasm, and second, they need to retain their mate. Men consider orgasm as a sign that they have succeeded in satisfying their partner. So women who are still far from reaching orgasm even after a long sex tend to fake it to make their partners feel good. Where it becomes a threat is in the frequency. When a woman has to fake orgasm too often, she will soon look for a partner who can actually satisfy her sexual drive.
What these studies suggest may be true, but what happens to your relationship will ultimately depend on you. If your spouse has cheated, find a place in your heart to forgive. Find healthy ways to deal with trust issues and reignite the spark.
If your spouse has never cheated on you, then good. But just because they have been faithful all this time does not mean you can stop working on your relationship. Do not be complacent just because you’ve grown too comfortable with one another. Dates do not have to stop when you already have kids. Don’t postpone movie nights just because you have some work to do. Rekindle the love through simple gestures of affection. Remember, relationships are a lifelong friendship that you need to foster every day.
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