What constitutes an extramarital affair? Is sex an essential part of the equation? Are emotional affairs also a betrayal of the marital vows? What about online relationships? These are but a few of the questions that many people have regarding extramarital relationships. All things considered, it all comes down to one core question: “When is it cheating, and when is it not?”
In this article, we’re going to talk about online affairs and the negative effects it can bring about on a relationship.
Cyber relationships, like most affairs, have an element of secrecy about them and have emotional and sexual nuances. All these considered, it can be fair to conclude that online affairs can be just as devastating as real-world affairs, especially if the people involved cease to limit themselves to Web-based interactions and start having a lot of in-person contact.
If you’re having doubts about whether your partner is having an online affair, the following signs can clue you in:
1. They suddenly become cold and distant, and they’re showing signs of apathy about your relationship. They also make obvious efforts to avoid intimacy with you, whether physical or emotional.
2. Forgetting anniversaries, birthdays, or other special occasions is a common thing that happens in most relationships due to the hectic lives people lead. However, if your partner not only forgets these occasions but is also uninterested in celebrating them, that’s when you should start to worry.
3. Your partner is not interested in having sex with you, and when they do, they show little to no enthusiasm when doing it, as if they’re just going through the motions of something they’d much rather be done with.
4. They get defensive when called out on the changes of their behavior and deny that anything has changed. If you insist on confronting them, they will switch the blame to you instead.
5. Your partner spends a lot more time on the Internet than they used to, and they get very protective about their time and activities online. They will also evade questions you ask them about their computer usage, change their passwords on their computer, or move the computer to a more isolated part of the house.
6. You catch them telling lies all the time. Initially it starts out as just little white lies that you think are harmless, but pretty soon, they’ll be telling you bigger lies, to the point that they can hurt your relationship.
Online affairs usually indicate that there are problems in your relationship that you weren’t aware of. They can be financial problems, sexual dissatisfaction, lack of communication, and the like. Whatever they are, the first thing you must do is confirm for yourself that your partner is having an online affair. The last thing you want to do is to confront your spouse and accuse them of having an affair without any evidence.
Once you have the evidence, you must be ready to confront your partner about what they’ve been doing behind your back. If they become hostile or continue to be in denial, you can seek out the help of a therapist to help resolve your problems. With time, forgiveness, and willingness to communicate with each other, you can both move on from the experience and rebuild your relationship.