Communication is an important part of any relationship, no matter the length of time you’ve been together. Whether you’ve been together for only a few months or several years, you’re going to need to have discussions about certain aspects of your relationship or about each other. The following are the essential discussions that you and your partner must have—the sooner the better.
What Conversations Should You Have with Your Partner?
At this point, maybe you and your partner have had sex lots of times. But that doesn’t mean that both of you fully know each other’s sexual needs. It’s never too late to try to find out. Who knows? Both of you might discover things about each other that you never thought about. For instance, your partner might have a certain fetish but has just been too shy to tell you. You, yourself, might have certain issues about your sex life that you’ve been afraid to tell your partner.
This is a crucial conversation to have, especially if you’re already sharing a house or are living together. If you haven’t done so but are planning to move in together, this might be the time to take them aside and ask them this important question: “How do you manage your own finances?” It’s also wise to choose who among the two of you will be the primary financial manager, whose job it is to always keep the other informed of important financial concerns like due dates of bills, credit card statements, and the like.
3. Communication Styles
Another thing you’ll need to talk about is you and your partner’s specific communication styles. Each person has his own way of communicating. Learning about your partner’s specific style is important because it will help you both to manage future conflicts. Think back on past disagreements and figure out how both of you approached the issues at hand. Did one of you have a tendency to speak out immediately? Does your partner usually need some time to process his or her emotions before having a talk? Knowing this information can enable both of you to make certain adjustments or compromises for the future.
4. Future Prospects
At some point, especially if you’ve been dating for several years, you two will need to think about what lies ahead for the two of you. Both of you need to be in sync with each other’s plans for the relationship. In short, you need to make sure that you’re both on the same page. Otherwise, if it’s only one of you who’s taking the relationship seriously, what would be the point of continuing the relationship?
5. Household Chores
Real-life love stories are not fairy tales. They’re not all about romance and happily ever after. For the most part, you will have to deal with very real issues, even tedious concerns like household chores. If you’re planning to live together, this is another aspect that you need to have a serious talk about. Division of the chores is important; you shouldn’t depend on your partner to do all your chores for the both of you. Discuss with each other as to who will do which tasks and who is responsible for certain chores.
These are just some of the important conversations that you and your partner should talk about, for the benefit of your relationship and for your future together.