No matter how much pain a mistake put you through, you can’t just confront the one who caused it so carelessly. You need to have a plan. When you get cheated on, you become the victim, but when you confront a cheating boyfriend, your claims and tears aren’t enough.
If you just start screaming at him without thinking things over, you’ll just end up getting yelled back at. He’ll deny every allegation you throw at him and give common excuses for cheating.
There is no “correct” way to confront a cheating boyfriend, but there sure is a better one than just standing there shouting without even thinking about what you actually want to get out of that conversation. Here are some tips.
How to Confront a Cheating Boyfriend
It’s an exchange that can either save your relationship or break it completely. Here are things you should do to prepare yourself for what could be the worst battle you would ever have to fight.
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1. Gather some evidence
Your words will never be enough. This isn’t a court trial, he might be showing signs of a cheating boyfriend, but still, pieces of evidence are very much important. Like screenshot of a suspicious exchange of text messages, nude photos, or a receipt for a motel visit you can’t remember making with him. Cheaters are good liars. If you can’t present any solid evidence to support your claims, they will just deny everything and will instead take it as a warning that they need to be more careful.
2. Prepare to get the blame put on you
They will deny your claims and then turn the tables on you. He won’t even try to look for the excuses, he will just call you crazy or stupid for even thinking about the possibility of him cheating. It works better for him than defending himself. Or sometimes, he will admit to it but will make it look like it was your fault that he gave in to temptations. he will make you feel like you weren’t good enough. Or he will tell you that it’s not good that you were snooping.
Do not let any of that nonsense stop you from getting the truth out of his mouth. Ask for an explanation. Do not run away.
3. Be calm
It’s hard to keep collected when all you can think of is how your relationship is failing. It’s almost impossible to stay calm when you’ve been hurt so much by the person you trust and love. But calm is what you need to be so you can say everything you need to say. If you let your emotions rule over you, trying to confront a cheating boyfriend will just end up in him storming out of the room because you can’t even talk straight.
More than anything else, before you confront a cheating boyfriend, it is important that you convince yourself not to let an affair ruin what you two had. It’s completely understandable for you to think that this is it, this is where it all ends, but you must not assume that he does not love you anymore just because he spent one night with someone else. Get mad, it’s fine, but don’t close your doors too soon. Give this relationship one more chance. Many women have said that they get cheated on too, but when they forgave, their relationship with their partners have become even stronger.
There’s no assurance that yours will have the same happy ending, but it pays to give it another shot. Don’t let all the time you spent together go to waste just like that. Some things are worth the risk. Let this be one of them.
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