While we have different definitions of cheating, we’ll all probably agree that sneaking around behind your partner’s back to meet someone else is bad. Flirting with someone outside the relationship is considered a taboo, yet it’s done by more people than we choose to believe.
Truth be told, there are a lot of things about cheating that we still don’t know. Like how we assume men cheat more than women solely based on the nature of the offense. But a 2011 study about cheating revealed that women now are as likely to cheat, citing that 23 percent of men and 19 percent of women cheated on their partner.
This is only one of the surprising facts about cheating. Below are five other things you probably don’t know about cheating in relationships.
Surprising Facts About Cheating
From where the affairs actually start to how bad it affects a marriage, here are surprising facts about cheating you probably don’t know.
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1. 60 to 85 percent of affairs start at work
It all begins at the workplace, not at the gym or with a random encounter at the pub. Think about the time your partner spends at the office. It’s you they go home to, but it’s not you they have long conversations over lunch with. Being together for more than forty hours a week can lead to strong bonds that may grow into an intimate one. And now that more and more women are leaving the house to find a job of their own, this only results in more affairs entered into by a woman.
2. Most cases of infidelity never get discovered
It is indeed one of the most surprising facts about cheating that we just fail to notice. Infidelity and cheating is so common yet hard to spot. In a study conducted by dating agency Undercover Lovers, it turns out that 89 percent of extra-marital affairs remain undiscovered. They end without the cheater’s significant other knowing anything about it.
It could be because the one cheated on doesn’t want to consider the possibility at all, so they never took a closer look, that perhaps, it’s better to be kept in the dark. But also it could be that cheaters are just really good liars. They know how to cover their tracks. Perhaps, the ability to come up with the perfect cover-ups and lies is a requirement before you can be mightily unfaithful.
Another thing to consider is that most affairs are a one-time thing. One-night stands, most especially, are a common act of unfaithfulness, and it’s only for a night. They tell no one about it, and they make it a rule not to get emotionally attached to their affair partner.
3. 65 percent of marriages tainted by infidelity end in divorce
It’s the number one cause of divorce and will remain the main driver of separation forever. Most victims of infidelity, once they find out their partner’s cheating, immediately think about breaking it all off. And they can’t be blamed, you’ve trusted so much only to get betrayed in the end. Nobody wants to stay in that kind of relationship.
It’s worth noting, however, that not all marriages get destroyed because of infidelity. Some try to work it out. How? Proper communication. The fact that your partner even thought about seeking comfort in someone else’s arms (or bed) means there’s something wrong. But some issues get sorted out after talking about it. Give it a shot.
4. Women and men have different reactions to cheating
It’s been the subject of a number of studies, which all yield the same result: women and men see cheating differently. Women consider emotional affairs a more serious offense, while men get riled up over physical affairs.
5. If one has cheated before, they’re more likely to cheat again
A 2017 study actually proved it true. Five hundred participants were asked about the whether or not they have cheated on their partners. Those who said they did in their first relationship admitted that they did the same in their second and their third.
You know what they say, if a mistake is done once, it might not be repeated; but if it’s done twice, there will always be a third and a fourth and so on. So maybe it’s real, once a cheater, always a cheater.
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